Getting Over a Breakup in a Desi Household
Top Ten Tips for Moving On After a Broken Engagement or Nikkah
Introduction to getting over a breakup
Getting over a breakup is challenging, and it can feel especially intense if an engagement or nikkah has broken in a desi household. A breakup here isn’t just between two people but can impact the whole family, with emotions and opinions running high. While it can be overwhelming, having family around also means you’re surrounded by support, strength, and (sometimes unsolicited) advice. Sphere Medium will take you through the top ten ways in getting over a breakup to help you navigate through heartbreak in a desi household, with both humorous and serious approaches.
Rely on Family Support
Family support is key in a desi household, especially when getting over a breakup especially a engagement or nikkah. Relatives may come to comfort you with advice, stories, or even just by being there. This can help you remember you’re not alone in your pain.
The Wisdom (and Wit) of Phupo ji (the dad's sister)
Phupos are often the first to offer “advice” In getting over a breakup (whether you asked or not). Some may say, “It wasn’t meant to be” or “Allah has better plans,” or even suggest new matches. As frustrating as it might seem, some of these insights are worth listening to for healing and strength. Just take the matchmaking advice lightly!
Redecorate for a Fresh Start
Rearranging or redecorating your room can symbolize a fresh start. Changing up your space with a few new touches or brighter colors can make you feel uplifted and allow you to refocus on yourself.
Find Comfort in Family Gatherings
In a desi family, gatherings are always around the corner. While you may want to avoid them at first, they can be the best distraction. Laughter, food, and the vibrant atmosphere are often the perfect antidotes to heartbreak.
Channel Emotions into Cooking
As the old saying goes, “Cooking is love made visible.” Trying out family recipes or experimenting in the kitchen can be a therapeutic way to spend time and lift your mood. Plus, it’s a way to celebrate the joy of life with loved ones, especially in desi culture where food is an expression of love.
Focus on Self-Improvement
Getting over a breakup can often bring out our desire to work on ourselves. Start a fitness routine, take up a new hobby, or invest time in self-care practices. In desi households, your mom might be the first to help with self-care, from homemade remedies to skincare tips. It’s a good time to focus on being the best version of yourself.
start a Drama Marathon (Humor)
Distract yourself with a marathon of classic Pakistani dramas like Humsafar or Zindagi Gulzar Hai. Nothing will make you feel better about your love life than seeing fictional characters deal with their own exaggerated heartaches. Bonus: this is a perfect way to laugh at the dramatics of life while actually healing.
Reconnect with Old Friends
Desi friends are just like family, always ready with chai and a listening ear. Catch up with friends who’ve been with you through thick and thin (true fact) they’ll remind you of your strengths, help you see the brighter side, and keep you laughing.
Rediscover Your Spiritual Side (Serious)
During times of heartbreak, many people find peace in reconnecting with their spiritual side. Taking some time for prayer, meditation, or reading can provide comfort and remind you that there’s always hope for new beginnings.
Laugh It Off with Desi Humor
Laughing is often the best medicine especially when getting over a breakup. Watch comedy shows, scroll through funny desi breakup memes, or let your siblings crack jokes about your ex. This is a reminder not to take life too seriously and that you’ll come out of this stronger.
Conclusion
Getting over a breakup, especially one as meaningful as a broken engagement or nikkah, is a unique journey. But in a desi household, you’re blessed with a loving family and community to help you through. With their support, a mix of humor, and some personal healing time, you’ll come out stronger. Embrace this time to rediscover yourself, make new memories, and remember that this is only a chapter in your story.
Thank you for reading. To ensure authenticity and thoroughness, I used a range of sources when putting this blog together. Do leave feedback in the comments section below, and carry on reading here at Sphere Medium.
FAQs
How can I stay calm when family keeps bringing up my breakup?
Politely remind them that you’re focusing on healing. Most will understand and may even avoid sensitive topics around you.
What if family support feels overwhelming?
Family means well, but if you need space, don’t hesitate to set boundaries. Thank them for their concern and let them know that sometimes you need a little solitude to process everything.
Is it normal to still feel hurt even after doing all these activities?
Yes, healing takes time. It’s okay to have good and bad days. Just continue to stay positive and remember that pain will eventually lessen.
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