Basically, there are two kinds of people: one who is awkward or uncomfortable to be around and the other who everyone gets attracted to instantly. They have a charming personality, and people love to be around them.
It’s a common human desire to be liked, as it opens up many opportunities for them. Likeable people have better career growth, they can influence easily, and they have better confidence and social connections.
How to be more likeable? Most of us believe that our words hold the power to attract people ; true but that’s not always the case. Of course you must have good vocabulary, but that’s not the whole package. People who are known to be charismatic have one common secret that makes them likeable and leaves a lasting impression. They give away some signals that make them attractive within the first five minutes of meeting them.
So today at Sphere medium we will learn three main things that make you instantly attractive and likeable.
1. Let your hands do the talking
The way your hands move shows two things: ‘intention’ and ‘explanation’. When people understand your intention and explanation, they start to connect with you and will be able to relate to you more. There are certain hand gestures that are most commonly used or made by such charismatic personalities.
Emotional hand gesture
When you feel strongly about something, make sure you keep your hand near the chest or somewhere around the heart. So in an interview you can say, I love to work with children or I’m passionate about the well-being of my employees or if you are giving a moving speech, you can say something like, “Now this story, which I’ll share with you, means so much to me.” Making sure to place your hand on your chest every time words like” I, me” are used.
Compare and contrast hand gesture:
When you want to explain a concept, use the compare and contrast approach and make your point by using both hands. A simple hand gesture would easily indicate your passion and sincerity about what you are talking about.
Increase and decrease hand gesture
Using hand gesture to explain increase or decrease/growth or decline/up and down will help to convey your message better. People will remember your point better, and they definitely give you attention.
We gesture
The we gesture shows unity; it shows that the people listening to you are involved in what you’re saying to them, and that makes them feel loved. It’s an outward gesture that shows your friendly nature. It makes you approachable, and often people like such personalities.
The strong point-hand gesture
You must agree that at least once in life you have been told that it’s rude to point at someone, but it’s not always the case. When we want to grab attention, then this is certainly the quickest way to do so, but instead of pointing, use your hand with all fingers open.
Also, please remember that when you are talking about numbers within five, it’s a great idea to actually show them by making gestures with fingers.
In the end, make sure that your hand gestures should look genuine; they shouldn’t feel as if you’re putting on a show. They should match your words; don’t use too many hand gestures either, because that may confuse people and make them think that you are a little weird, okay? So use your hands accordingly.
2. Vocal variety will help people remember you:
Now, along with hand gestures, the quality of your voice is so important. A good voice attracts people’s attention. So what’s a good voice? It’s the one that is full of energy, one that could transmit emotions through voice. It’s important to change the tone and pitch of your voice according to the message.
So if you are talking about something exciting, you should sound excited and upbeat as well. And if you’re giving instructions for day-to-day tasks, you need to have a sober voice, and you should sound sober or professional.
So vocal variety is also an important factor in having a likeable personality. Also go through “5 Ways To Make Yourself More Interesting And Avoid Being Boring“ at Spheremedium for more tips.
3. Don't try too hard to smile
Everyone knows about the power of a smile. It makes you look better, approachable, and most importantly, confident. Yet people fail to use it to their advantage.
Most of the time it so happens when delivering a speech or presenting a project, out of nervousness, we forget to smile or may try too hard to fake one.
For a genuine smile, here’s what you should do: First, you need to try to make sure you loosen your jaw, then take a deep breath and exhale, thinking you’re removing all toxins from your mind and body. This would calm you down, and your facial muscles will be relaxed enough to give the best smile you possibly can.
So go ahead and make the best impression by using these pointers. To be attractive in less than 5 minutes, use hand gestures to grab attention along with different tones of voice, and most importantly, don’t forget to smile.
If you find self-grooming articles interesting, then please go through “How to handle embarrassing and awkward questions in a conversation!” at Spheremedium, your portal to enlightened perspective!
FAQs
People are always attracted to confident and genuine personalities.
Be kind and confident. Listen carefully when someone talks to you, maintain eye contact, and use a sense of humor.
Because they can have better opportunities not only in career growth but also in social life.
Smile more often; this instantly makes you more likeable.
I am a dentist, baker, and fitness and health enthusiast with a passion for living life to the fullest. I am foodie and explorer, always seeking new adventures and flavors. Currently working on my own skincare brand.
