What’s the biggest problem in the world? For those who are thinking hate, jealousy, war, unemployment, you are all wrong .The biggest problem in the world is a disease we might catch on. No, it’s not HIV, it’s not malaria, and it’s the disease of being boring.
Now why do I call it a disease or an epidemic? Because it kills your chances of a good career, kills your personality and social life. If you’re being boring believe me you’ll never be able to get the best in life.
How not to be boring?
So how do we cure ourselves of this epidemic? How do we get ourselves rid of this disease? Let’s go over these 5 tips that will help you get rid of it.
1. Asking lame and predictable questions
Now when you get to a party, at work or when you’re just meeting your friend, what do you say? Most of us say,” how’s work going?” Or” how’s everything?”
Now these questions are what I called ‘social scripts’. You’re saying them because you don’t know what else to say. These questions are so predictable, that the person who answers them, knows this aswell .So what to do about it?
‘Engage people in active thinking’:
How will you do that? Ask them questions that make them answer based on their deep believes or emotions. So when meeting a friend you could say something like “so tell me are there any particular project at work that you are deeply passionate about?” Or “I love your work, is there anything else that you’d rather do?”
Now these questions are comfortable questions which makes a person talk about his likes, dislikes, his preferences and the person you are speaking with, feels that you are really genuinely interested in them and that makes you a lot more interesting. So boring out, interesting and engaging in.
2. I’m not an interesting person
There might be a time when this thought came across your mind, that you don’t have great connections. Like no close friends or really anyone at all, because you’re not being interesting. It’s because your actions show that you are not interested in people .To be able to be liked by people you must show in your conversation that you are genuinely interested in them.
How do you do that? You can pick a friend in your conversation that helps you ask interesting details about them.
For example, If your friend is a software developer, you can say, “being a developer must be very challenging, how do you cope up with such fast paced industry”?
Or with someone who is a freelancer you can say, “How do you get inspired to write about things, where do you draw your insights from”?
Your questions are showing that you are interested in people you are talking to, your questions give importance to people and that’s how you become more likeable. Believe me, people find you interesting if you give them importance. When talking to people also make sure that you are not busy with your phone, make sure that you maintain eye contact and give your 100 percent attention to them.
3. Say at least one good thing
This is like a no-brainer but “giving compliments” and that to genuine ones, will definitely make you more interesting .There must be one good thing you can say, it might be the first good thing from other person in a whole day? Don’t you think it will make you an interesting person for them? So give compliments, it doesn’t take more than a minute and doesn’t cost a penny. It’s easy and makes you less boring around people.
4. Make your body speak
Make sure your body language is right. Now what does that mean? You could use three simple tips.
- Every time you speak with someone, lean in their direction, why? Because psychology says when you like someone you are bound to lean closer towards them. So subconsciously, it shows you are genuinely interested and that makes you less boring.
- When someone is talking to you, make sure you just nod multiple times to show you’re engaged in what they are saying. People love to be heard and this is a way to ensure that you make them feel that you are paying close attention to them.
- Now this one is optional, you can slightly touch them or pat them, maybe on their arm or shoulder to show affection. Just make sure you do it once. And if you’ve done that, then you’ve established a good deal of comfort with that person.
5. My sense of humor sucks
Not everyone is natural at cracking jokes, but if you are one of those people who can make light of any situation, you’ll never be called boring. Now, using humor doesn’t mean you need to crack a full blown joke, even if you pass a comment that makes people crack a smile, it’s a good sign.
Say, if you’re talking to a friend about living with your parents, instead of saying that “I live with my parents” you can say “well it’s been a while since I’ve woken up to my mother yelling at me to make my bed, but I love being with my folks’. When you say it this way, chances are that you will make people smile and enjoy being with you, simply by using humor in a smallest possible way.
So if you consider yourself Mr. Boring or Miss boring, then I hope this article was helpful for you in bringing out that interesting person from within yourself. Do drop down in the comments if you think there is more to add to the list, I’ll be eager to read that out.
FAQs
Because it has an impact on social life. Even career growth opportunities are more open for an interesting person.
When you focus on listening, it is perceived that you are giving respect and valuing what others have to say.
Don’t interrupt, focus on speaker, you may ask questions to get the better idea of what the person is trying to deliver.
“What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?” or “What’s the most interesting thing about your job?”
Read and watch humorous books movies, shows, Keep Company with people having a good sense of humor.
Try new things, like learn new language, new hobby, and new sport or may be a new cuisine.
Not being funny and having no sense of humor. Lacking in opinions. Complaining a lot and being negative. Talking too much and being a bad listener.
You will always be perceived as a boring person if you don’t have substance and depth within you. This means you need to stop focusing on the less important things in life and focus on things that really matter.
Ask a lot of questions, observe and stay curious and try new things.
I am a dentist, baker, and fitness and health enthusiast with a passion for living life to the fullest. I am foodie and explorer, always seeking new adventures and flavors. Currently working on my own skincare brand.
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